Video 021 Complex Grief (Phase 3 – Accommodation)

Use this solution

When a client’s grief has become complicated or complex, and after past traumas and current triggers have been resolved. Now, you need to help the client readjust to life and to move adaptively into the new world and to reinvest in the future.

Originator:

Solomon & Rando (2007)

Solomon & Rando (2012)

Lazrove S. (1996 June)See also

Note also: Ad De Jongh & Suzy Matthijssen: Case Conceptualization & Target Selection in EMDR Therapy; Webinar April 2021

Video production

Matthew Davies Media Ltd, Llanidloes, Powys. www.matthewmedia.com

Take-Away Section

What this covers

The sudden, accidental death of a grandson when out cycling with his grandfather. Video 019 dealt with the pain and loss associated with the past event. Video 020 dealt with present day triggers and consequential losses due to the death of the grandson. This video deals with the future, and is about using EMDR to help the client readjust to life without the loved one. 

How long

10.46 minutes

Related videos

See Videos 019 and  020

Go to ‘Take-away’?

Wrap up: for understanding of our approach to grief work and various ‘theories’ of how to work with grief go to Video 019.

Aide mémoire: for step by step description for installing future templates.

+ Wrap up

+ Aide-mémoire

This is the third part of the protocol for complex grief and it addresses the future without the loved one.

  1. If there appears to be significant anticipatory anxiety about some aspect of the future without the loved one, use ‘Flash forward’ Protocol as in Video 007. Strictly speaking this is part of the second prong of the overall EMDR protocol as the anxiety is manifested in the present. In this actual case, this wasn’t an issue.
  2. If concerns about the future appear to be more about the abilities and/or skills needed to adapt and move forward, develop and install appropriate Future templates. This is what happened in this actual case. Further information about templates including a step-by-step guide can be found in Video 006.