Video 003 ‘Loving Eyes’ procedure
Use this solution
To bring ‘healing’ to an abused part (an EP) feeling unloved/alone/ignored/at fault. To facilitate integration/reconciliation between parts. The latter always involves building collaboration, co-consciousness and cooperation between parts that have emerged because of trauma.
Originator
Dr Jim Knipe.
Video production
Matthew Davies Media Ltd, Llanidloes, Powys.
www.matthewmedia.com
What this covers
Case of woman with history of childhood physical and emotional abuse. When different parts of the personality co-exist, hostility may also be present. The adult ANP, for example, may not be prepared to ‘accept’ an abused child part (the EP), so that internal conflict will continue to dysregulate the client. The video shows how to work towards reconciliation between these parts.
How long?
8.37 minutes.
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- Loving eyes can also be useful at the Assessment Phase if there is conflict between parts that might interfere with the normal protocol.
- Sometimes, there is too strong a resistance to ‘looking’ from one part to another, so it becomes impossible for the adult to look at the child or visa versa. In this case try using LOUA (Video 004)to reduce the urge to avoid (not necessarily to zero, but enough to allow processing) can allow Loving Eyes to proceed.
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- Ask the adult part what they feel and think about the child part and visa-versa.
- Explore why they feel and think like that.
- Begin to challenge their positions if there is hostility or fear or anxiety. For example:
- What would other people say if they were aware of what the child had experienced? Who else has experienced what the child did? Then, if they were older or more mature than the child, comparison between the two could be helpful in putting things into a different perspective.
- What could the child have done differently?
- Ask about the feasibility of any other action?
- What difference might it have made?
- What would be the downside of doing this?
- Check feelings and thoughts again between the parts.
- If changed with less hostility, ask the adult part to ‘see’ the child part with compassion and love in their eyes. Do BLS at normal speed.
- Ask the usual question, ‘What do you notice now? Followed by ‘go with that’. Carry on with until the relationship between parts demonstrates love and compassion on the part of the adult, and trust, safety, being cared for by the child part.
- Often, the child part will then ask to be taken out of where they are ‘trapped’. Taking the child into the adult’s safe place usually works well, or have the adult take the child part with them and into their life. This is the process of integration – don’t push it. Usually it will happen of its own accord.
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What you will learn:
The video demonstrates how Tom’s damaging and pervasive attachment experiences with his mother and father can be repaired and reversed through rewiring his thought patterns. The video shows how the therapist and Tom co-construct and install an alternative reality - a hypothetical ‘ideal’ mother as a resource. In turn, this led to new neural pathways that changed the way he felt about himself and how he related to others.
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What you will learn
The use of EMDr to successfully desensitize and reprocess the new intrusive memory through this narrow focussed adaption of the standard EMDR process, before going back to the original target memory.
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What you will learn
The latest thinking about how and why pain is made, and the basic mechanism behind how EMDR works to reduce pain. Step by step protocol for working with chronic pain – includes use of drawing/art.
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What you will learn:
Enable clients develop and deploy new skills to reduce risk of conflict and help resolve conflict should it arise in future. In particular it shows:
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What you will learn:
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What you will learn:
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What you will learn:
How to create a story describing a child’s traumatic experience, involve family members in the process, and carry out the adapted standard EMDR process.
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What you will learn:
How to use this protocol with dysregulated clients who may want therapy soon after experiencing a very distressing event.
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What you will learn:
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What you will learn:
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Case of a singer who suffered an unexpected panic attack during a performance, seriously threatening his future ability to continue as a soloist.
What you will learn:
How to use the standard EMDR protocol along with the three prong approach to overcome performance anxiety. Can be used in many other situations, e.g. fear of a future medical procedure after a bad experience.
The sudden, accidental death of a grandson. While Video 019 dealt with the pain and loss associated with a past event and Video 020 with the present, this video deals with the future.
What you will learn:
How to use EMDR to help the client readjust to life without the loved one.
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What you will learn:
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What you will learn:
How to use EMDR to release the complex nature of stuck or distorted grief – the first phase in a three-phase process to address Complex grief. Also, how Narrative therapy provides a ‘bird’s eye’ picture of how the three phases work together.
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What you will learn
How to use CIPOS (Constant installation of present orientation and safety) and BHS (Back of the head scale) when risk of dissociation is high.
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What you will learn:
What to target when clients come to therapy with a problem that includes both positive and negative affect components
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What you will learn
How to do a Phase 3 Assessment with a dissociative client when the trauma is held by a part of the personality. Phase 4, Desensitisation, follows.
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What you will learn
Learn how to use this technique to overcome blocking and looping with the standard EMDR protocol.
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What you will learn
How to free clients from damaging generational and cultural practices using the standard protocol in conjunction with a process based on Narrative therapy in which the introject is ‘externalized, disowned by the client and removed with a two handed and imagination interweaves.
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What you will learn
Step by step protocol borrowed from Popky’s use of EMDR with addictive disorders and Jim Knipe’s “Level of urge to avoid (LOUA).”
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What you will learn
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What you will learn
How to facilitate communication between two ego states.
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What you will learn
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What you will learn
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What you will learn
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What you will learn
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What you will learn
How to help clients manage stress.
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What you will learn
Learn how to use these question to overcome blocking and looping with the standard EMDR protocol.
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What you will learn
How to help clients resolve dilemmas.
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